The power of vulnerability when building strong and resilient communities

Dear GenDAO community.

I felt to write this post about feelings.

I spent the last weekend in the largest conscious tech summit in the world in the Red Sea in Egypt. People from all over the globe, from billionaires to small African startups were together to talk about conscious and socially impactful projects. I believe we could consider ourselves in that category. We are experimenting a different way of organizing.

Perhaps the most used word in the workshops and presentations was vulnerability. The act of radical honesty, and the potential this posture has to change our minds, relationships and environment. It is also the core of NVC (non-violent-communication).

I invite you to access your feelings about our choices in this community and to share here if you feel called to. - Can we solve some of our frictions and get to more creative solutions if we allow ourselves to express in a vulnerable way? - Would this open space for more synergy and collaboration? - Can we have more constructive feedbacks and support each others actions?

I will start, as I can only speak for myself.

I feel so much being part of Genesis everyday for the last year. I feel grateful for the immeasurable learning experiences I have. I feel like I’m in a mirror room. The types of behavior that trigger me, usually have something to teach me about my own behavior. I feel unheard sometimes. I wish I knew how to express better and louder and with more confidence some of my ideas. At the same time, I like to observe. I feel excitement and curiosity about the people that come here. I feel underrepresented. I would like to see more woman, LGBTQ and black communities here. I feel afraid we are excluding important perspectives in the grounding stage. I feel part of a movement that wants to act towards a more egalitarian world. I feel called by freedom and self sovereignty, that’s why I’m here. I think I do a good job at collaborating, and I see others doing it as well, I feel proud of that. I like to hear constructive feedback about my blind spots. I feel privileged to have the chance to improve personally and professionally with all of you, especially the ones I connect with more often.

Thanks for your attention and openness. Please let me know if you don’t feel free to express yourself in this community.

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Kinda cliché video but still meaningful here I think ::]
A dear friend sent me last week but I never found the time to watch. Now that I did, it made me think about this thread and how important and necessary these conversations are - specially in the spaces we dedicate our precious energies and among people that does so too.

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I think that the perspective of vulnerability is very interesting, and I am starting to suspect that we must bake those kinds of values into the DAO ecosystem itself.

To thrive, an ecosystem must have diversity, or it becomes brittle and less resilient.

I am concerned that the way that Genesis is structured from top to bottom has invisible biases against women and people of color. Out of my DAO friends, I was the only woman and also the one who had the most problems with onboarding, and I found the process emotionally fraught in a really humiliating way. I felt like I had no control over whether or not I was accepted into the DAO and I was scared that I would be the only one out of my friends that was rejected, after everyone else was accepted. They assured me that just being human would pretty much get me in, but that made me even more nervous because I would really feel like a loser if I were rejected even with such low standards. I wrote a pretty sassy intro about my true feelings in my REP request, then ran into problems with Metamask and dropped out of the onboarding process for the second time. After a month, I decided to try again. This time, I made my request much more boring and innocuous to fit in better with the culture.

Unfortunately, due to life circumstances, I am finding it much harder to hold down my natural snarkiness and I fear that my personality, uncompressed, will be too much for the ecosystem.

Yesterday the NY Times came out with an article about the corny moms on Tik Tok, doing ridiculous things and not caring, exploring a freedom that their Instagram daughters could only dream of. I think that if we do not manage to create a work culture that is more fun and free than we would find in corporations, than we need to just pack up our stuff and call it quits. There need to be cultural signals that let people know that it’s okay to make up wild proposals and be more playful. I would actually say that we need some kind of metrics to measure these kinds of things, like how free people feel to be themselves or how enjoyable the environment is. I’m not quite sure how, though.